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Monday, October 15, 2012

My apologies? Not so fast......

First, let me start by rescinding the apology I made over the weekend to the good folks at the place I linked to in that blog that caused such an uproar. I pretty much caused someone's panties to get in a bunch. Not very positive. You know the blog of which I speak. Okay, I am hereby rescinding the apology that I typed out and posted on one of the co-founders' blogs because she said that I had 'laid hurt on' her heart. If you aren't sure wtf I'm talking about, go through the blogs I posted within the past few days, then scroll down and read one of the last comments posted, you'll see two different blogs mentioned in that comment, right before I swallowed my pride and got all weepy and sorry. Yeah, about that. I've decided that I'm NOT sorry I said what I said. What I AM sorry for is that people put themselves out there in the innerwebs, opening themselves up for all kinds of things, and then get all sad and sensitive when someone says a word against them. Here's a suggestion: grow a thicker skin. I was kind in my mocking. There are others out there that would be more than happy to give you a punch in the throat and not be sorry.

I went to the one blog and read what she had written about my 'cruelty' and about how what I said was 'thoughtless, careless and rude'. Now, me being the nice person I am (shut up) and not looking to get anyones' knickers in a twist, I apologized for hurting her feelings. I said that that was not my intent. But you know what? I shouldn't have to apologize for my opinion. And you know what else? It's been 3 days since I posted that apology in a comment and I have not seen one single acknowledgement regarding my words. If someone was thoughtless, careless and rude to me and I got all sad and weepy, and then they came back and apologized, I'd damn well acknowledge that apology. I'd at least say "Hey so and so, I appreciate your saying that you're sorry. I respect that you had the decency to come to MY page and publicly apologize to me for hurting my feelings." But I didn't even get so much as a "Hey Snarkfest, eat shit". So as I stated, I'm rescinding the apology. I'm not sorry. If you open yourself up to the world with an idea, you have to know that NOT everyone is going to say 'wow, that's brilliant, you're a genius, here's money to get it started.' If you believe that, you are living in fantasy land, so say hi to Mickey for me. As a matter of fact, when I initially saw the original idea for my blog post on that site, trying to raise money to make their dream a reality, they were only at $2600 in contributions. Now they are over $3200. I'd like to think that possibly my little controversy may have given them the sympathy donation and they've actually raised money because of my words. And she admitted that I taught her a lesson in empathy and living in choice. (Did I mention she's a life coach? That's a whole other blog post itself!)

Look, this is my blog. From here on out I will stand by what I say. I will make no apologies for voicing my opinions. If I think something is ridiculous, I'm going to say it, because that's who I am. I make no apologies for my opinions. I am a good person (shut up again) and I'm raising my kids to have a sense of humor. And I feel so badly for those who do not have one. You should get one. They're nice.

23 comments:

  1. Oh Teri,
    I am so proud to see that you are NOT a politician and are indeed a human being who can stand by what she says. I know of this 'controversy' and the damn straight truth is that your original offensive blog post was funny, not offensive at all. And you are right, as we put ourselves out there in the world for people to acknowledge and see, we sure as hell have to decide to have thicker skin, and not be swaued, injured or even deliriously put on a pedastool by others. After all, the ONLY opinion that matters of our ideas and of ourselves, is ours. That is the one we have to sleep with at night.

    Good. For. You.

    PS. So love the absence of those bot thingies....And you should LINK this post.

    PSS THey will now get MORE traffic and exposure from the people who missed this the first go around.

    PSSS - Do they make panties for this....big girl panties?

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    1. Hey if they get even $5 more dollars because of this, then I'm happy for them! :)

      So glad you're happy I put the bot in time out.

      Teri

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  2. You rock my fat face off! I can't stand crap like that, so good for you. Especially if left ignored, it was an undeserved apology in the first place. When someone apologizes to me, darn skippy i say thanks or whatever - apologizing is HARD! It takes alot to do it, and when it's done it should be respected. Again, good for you!! When i'm not on my phone i am totally looking all this up:)

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    1. Thank you honey! I did give this a lot of thought over the weekend and realized that I wasn't being genuine, I was being someone that this person probably thought I should be. But that's not who I am. My blog is called 'Snarkfest', not 'Mildly Mocking but Never Hurtful Fest'. I knew I wasn't being honest when I said that I was sorry. I'm sarcastic, I'm snarky, I possess sardonic wit and I have a dry sense of humor. That doesn't mean I'm a terrible, horrible, awful person. Those who know me appreciate my humor. Those who don't don't have to read my stuff. Simple as that.

      And bring your face around anytime!!

      Teri

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  3. naziwhackjobrunningcrackhoOctober 15, 2012 at 4:09 PM

    Your right my friend. You open yourself up to the world of blogging then be prepared for the positive truth that may come knocking at your door in any way shape or form. Way to stand up for yourself and you know my mind is just churning with all kinds of things..hehehe sssshhhhh not a word.

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    1. You bought it, didn't you crackho?

      Teri

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  4. Now I am on a hunt to see what the hell you said.... but fuck yeah! Society is raising these pussy people that can't stand to have anyone stand against them. For gods sake we live in a free world, with freedom of speech. Lord knows that there are many people that look at me and what i believe in with disbelieve, but fuck, this me, if you don't like it go away.

    Good for you!!!

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    1. Thanks Jules. I agree. 100%.

      Teri

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  5. Good for you. It was nice of you to feel badly that someone had her feelings hurt. HOWEVER, it is not cool to manipulate people by claiming that your heart was hurt...especially over some undies. Sense of humor, people! :)

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    1. Thanks, Tina. That's exactly what it was, passive aggressive manipulation. Sense of humor is of the essence, as is having a thick skin.

      Teri

      ps....miss your blog!!! New one soon???

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  6. Who fucking cares what they think... Seriously you can't have something on the line of shittastick and almost funny and say something like it hurts my heart... People who say that wouldn't have mega fuck ton of something in a pair of skivs, that is a little cheerleader std-ish for my taste anyway, it would be more of a ooh I've got big buns type of language... If every great idea I had- such as handing out steel wool tampons to every bitch I met, would go viral I would expect nothing less than a little snark... I'm glad you took back your apology

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    1. Laughing my fat ass off at steel wool tampons. I believe in you I have found my soulmate!!

      Thanks,
      Teri

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    2. STEEL TAMPONS!!! OMG!!! SNORT!!! To "Sorry kid, your mom doesn't play well with others." Will you marry me? Fantastic!!!

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  7. Go Teri! I love you did what you did. And did what you did next. And next. Go Girl! Putting your stuff out there and getting feedback is part of the game, no? If they can't handle one fun feedback they will have a long line of issues going forward.

    And seriously - steel wool tampons!? Love it - but wait - I'm allergic to wool (seriously) - will I get hives 'there' too?

    Keep on snarking on sista!

    Joy

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    1. Joy I'm so sorry about your wool allergy. Perhaps she has a polyester blend of faux steel wool that she can give you.

      Seriously thanks for the back up, babe. It truly means a bunch to me!

      Teri

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  8. Good for you. You are awesome and Everyone knows it!! People should be allowed to have a different opinion with out someone attacking them.

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    1. Thanks babe. It wasn't an out and out attack but a more passive aggressive thing and it made me, for a few moments, be someone I'm not. But I'm feeling much better now. ;)

      Teri

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  9. Sigh, I miss everything. Whoever was crappy to you needs a good, swift kick in the butt. I'd do it, but my right foot is lame, and it might not hurt as much with my left foot.

    XO hon, I think you are awesome!

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    1. Hey sweets, just knowing you'd kick someone's butt for me is all I need. ;)

      Thanks honey!!

      Teri

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  10. What is up with all the negative nellie's out in the blogosphere lately?! I am so sick of people being nasty. Love the post. Love you. Ignore the nellie's hahaha

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    1. Must be the turning of the leaves making everyone cranky. Love you, girl! Thanks!!

      Teri

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