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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Why I'm Out of Contention for Wife/Mother of the Year: A Snarkfest Confession

The amazing Frugalista Blog is healing from a football injury, and in her blogging absence, she's having some guest bloggers fill in for her until she's back in action. And one of her guests is the phenomenal Keesha from Mom's New Stage. Keesha's post is a fantastic confession of ways that she sucks.

This got me thinking that it's been a really rough week at Casa Snarkfest, and I think that it's very important that you all know that I'm NOT a very nice person sometimes (shut up, I said SOMEtimes, not 24/7). I think it's also important that you know that my family usually ends up on the receiving end of my not-so-niceness and they deserve an apology. So to that end, I'm presenting you all a list of reasons I sometimes suck at this whole wife/mother thing. The list below, in no particular order, is my way of apologizing to my family for my short-comings. I hope to improve on this soon. Until then, please don't change the locks on the front door.

A. I am a lousy housekeeper. You know it. I know it. And while I piss and moan to you all about not folding and putting laundry away, I continue to pile dirty dishes in the sink and then bitch that they are still in there days later. I'm just as much at fault as you are.
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B. I let things simmer inside until I can't take it anymore, then I explode and let everything pour out, and you are on the receiving end, whether it was your fault or not. I'm talking to all of you. Instead of addressing the issue when it happens, I let it stew and fester, and then one thing sets me off and I look like Milton the Monster when he blows his top. And for that, I am sorry.
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C. I am very hard on both 16 and 14. I embarrass them for missing the bus in the hopes that it will motivate them to start making the bus. And apparently, it's backfiring on me. Embarrassing them is mean. And I didn't realize just how mean it was until a 'Come to Jesus' meeting this week in which I realized just how much it has affected them. So I promise to make a concentrated effort to stop using negative reinforcement to motivate, and start using positive reinforcement. Donuts? Puppies? I'm open to suggestions.

D. I have also promised to try to be less, shall we say, 'fly-off-the-handle-like' with my girls. I've never had a teenager before, and they don't come with a manual, so it's pretty much either learn from the mistakes of others, or it's on the job training. So let this be a lesson to other parents who have kids who may soon be teens: listen to them before jumping on their shit. It's a mistake I make way too often. I leap before I look and I often miss the point. And for that, 16 & 14, I'm incredibly sorry. And I'll try to do better.
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E. I often phone in my interest, and that's bad. Very bad, m'kay? Phoning in your interest is not cool. So when 14 goes on about how hot Austin Mahone is or how much her You-Tubers crack her up, I promise not to phone in my interest, I promise to listen. If it's important to my kids, then it needs to be important to me too. Because I don't want them to turn to someone else who will feign interest to get them to do things they probably should not be doing. So when you tell me about someone on the team who does this or that, or you tell me that someone in your class is bothersome, or that Harry Styles is the best thing since chocolate Pop-Tarts, I promise to listen and not just nod my head and say 'yup, sure is.'

F. I don't make enough time for my husband, and that's really bad too. Not making time for your husband is bad, m'kay? Marriage is hard, yo. Really hard. But we've been at it for almost 19 years, and he's so cute! It's definitely worth working for, and I am sorry that I don't make enough time for him. I need to make a concentrated effort to make a monthly 'date night' and I'm announcing it here and now (Wolf! Right here and now!) that I'm going to try hard to do this for him and for our marriage.

I think that's enough confession for one day. So to my handsome and funny 49, to my beautiful and amazing 16 and my phenomenal and fantastic 14, I'm sorry that I'm not working hard enough and I promise that I will try harder to be a better person. You girls look to me to be a role model, and I'm going to try to be the person you need me to be. Now go clean your rooms.


21 comments:

  1. I was gonna suggest a constant beating, but I guess that is out of the question....:)

    It took a lot of guts to hit the "Publish" button on this one, Snarkola.

    Nicely done.

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  2. Thanks for posting this one. I'm guilty of several of these myself. I think it may be time for me to do a little re-evaluation and remind myself how tough being a kid can be.

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    1. It's good to know I'm not alone in this parenting thing, Rhonda.

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  3. Huh, it was a football injury wasn't it? That sounds kinda cool....
    Amen to this list. You have summed it all up.

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    1. Thanks Frugie. And yeah, your football injury does sound kinda cool, doesn't it?

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  4. Don't beat yourself up about planning a date night...49 should do that occasionally as well! Shouldn't be all up to you. This post sounds an awful lot like me...I think I might have written it..

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  5. I think we are twins. Seriously. Except I don't let things fester...I'll just blow up right then and there. No time for festering.

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  6. Talk about baring one's soul! You're probably a rocking mom! Just stressed out and having no extra time for anything.

    Wine and chocolate date with the hubs. While the kids do a sleepover somewhere. Do it.

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  7. I love your list! Some great reminders in there. Date night? What is that? And as for having teenagers, I cannot imagine. Seems like it must require Olympic parenting skills.

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    1. There should DEFINITELY be an Olympic Parenting Event. We'd ALL win the gold! They'd need a bigger podium.

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  8. naziwhackjobcrazy running hoNovember 20, 2013 at 6:12 PM

    Hmmmm this is coming from the Best....taxi driver, concession stand helper, community volunteer, get out bed alarm clo
    ck, getter upper, band mom, volleyball
    mom, get me to RE mom, grocery shopper, chef, take kids shopping mom, best friend, stand on my head and do anything for my family first, runner, office administrator, wife, pokeno hostess, song writer, blogger, writer and cheerleader for everyone...here ye here tye...AWARD....that is my STORY and I am sticking to this....

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  9. C and F are so me too. I am scared to publish my own list of shortcomings. It could take me all day!

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    1. Take it easy on yourself, Kathy. We're all in this together.

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  10. I'm guilty on ALL counts, and then some. I think it's important for kids to know that we aren't perfect and make mistakes too. If they can accept that, they can accept the less than perfect parts of themselves.

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